tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2887421078018917420.post7738154060424761137..comments2024-03-29T01:28:38.847-07:00Comments on The Debt Chronicles: We Bought a CarSunflowershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02917160919955773944noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2887421078018917420.post-3095284808826258782010-06-09T08:20:26.833-07:002010-06-09T08:20:26.833-07:00He's a good guy. But you don't need to fe...He's a good guy. But you don't need to feel guilty for your good fortune in having him around. The truth is, he's not so much helping out your mom (that was a side effect) as seeing to his own happiness (which involves NOT having your mom live in with you!). He wants to stay with you, which means he finds a way to handle your mom in the way that least impinges upon him. Nice that it is working out for all of you.Grace.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03557395027685855901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2887421078018917420.post-11091497011179019472010-06-06T10:59:59.836-07:002010-06-06T10:59:59.836-07:00It sounds like M is a very generous man who loves ...It sounds like M is a very generous man who loves you very much. He wouldn't do that otherwise. So be thankful for that.<br /><br />I'm sorry that you have such a frustrating issue to handle. It's hard to support other people, and it's doubly hard when those people are supposed to be your example, not the other way around. You want to be able to say, "Ok, it's time you become an adult and take care of yourself," but at the same time, that person is your family and you don't want them to suffer. (I've gone through something similar with a grandmother, though she's never had to move in with the family. Yet.) It probably took a lot of courage to write this post. Thanks for sharing it with us. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2887421078018917420.post-29011706620871808292010-06-03T07:04:57.630-07:002010-06-03T07:04:57.630-07:00you and M are generous. i'm in the same boat w...you and M are generous. i'm in the same boat with my mum. be careful though, you could just be enabling here.<br /><br />medical bills or utilities could send her over the edge? it's life. you can't be expected to bail her out every time. good luck. it's SO HARD when it's your own mother!Kiloko Designshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10429570196796074617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2887421078018917420.post-76642350471043963702010-06-02T21:54:54.278-07:002010-06-02T21:54:54.278-07:00That is very generous. You didn't make him do ...That is very generous. You didn't make him do anything, he chose to. Adnd it's great you can afford to help out your family like that.<br /><br />My parents, while not really well-off, will certainly never need my help. It's kind of the opposite for BF. (And also the opposite in that I'm the main income earner; he's out of work). Buying a car sounds just like something he'd want to do to help his mother, and I know he would in a heartbeat if he had the money.<br /><br />Family can be the source of a lot of financial stress. You say he doesn't talk about it, but he doesn't seem concerned. So don't feel guilty!eemusingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08025534387718090906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2887421078018917420.post-56871550809224304752010-06-02T20:50:22.009-07:002010-06-02T20:50:22.009-07:00I agree with Canadian Saver... he wouldn't hav...I agree with Canadian Saver... he wouldn't have done it if he wasn't comfortable with the idea. And, like you said, there are perks in it for him too.ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18150815858732355900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2887421078018917420.post-49526600725841639722010-06-02T17:28:18.670-07:002010-06-02T17:28:18.670-07:00It was very generous. :) He likes seeing everyone ...It was very generous. :) He likes seeing everyone in the family have everything they need. And she does appreciate it, very much so... I made sure to add that to the post.Sunflowershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02917160919955773944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2887421078018917420.post-48178222532968889692010-06-02T16:55:49.710-07:002010-06-02T16:55:49.710-07:00I don't think he'd do it if he didn't ...I don't think he'd do it if he didn't want to... how very generous. I hope your mom appreciates her new car :-)Canadian Saverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18335109256687297543noreply@blogger.com